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The No-Cry Sleep Solution

The No-Cry Sleep Solution

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  • Author：Elizabeth Pantley
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Summary

The classic， best-selling no-tears guide to making sure your baby--and you--get a full night's sleep has been updated - it is now easier to use and has been expanded to include more solutions plus critical new safety information。

Nearly all babies fight sleep。 Some people argue that parents should let their baby "cry it out" until the child falls asleep; others say parents should tough it out from dusk until dawn。 Neither tactic fosters happiness in the family。 The No-Cry Sleep Solution gives parents a third option: a proven method to pin-point the root of sleep problems and solve them in a way that is gentle to babies， effective for parents， and provides peace in the home。

One of today's leading experts on children's sleep， Elizabeth Pantley delivers clear， step-by-step ideas for guiding your child to a good night's sleep--without any crying。 This parenting classic shows how to decipher--and work with--your baby's biological sleep rhythms， create a customized plan for getting your child to sleep through the night， nap well during the day， and teach your baby to fall asleep peacefully， and stay asleep， without all-night breastfeeding， bottle-feeding， or requiring a parent's care all through the night。

And now， this updated edition is even easier to follow。 It provides important new guidelines on safety （bedsharing， pacifiers， swings， slings， swaddling and more）， and an expanded chapter specifically about newborns。 It covers every sleep issue that occurs in the first few years and answers parents' common questions about white noise， back-sleeping， SIDS， day care， naps， nightwaking， bedsharing， dealing with strong-willed babies， working with caregivers， troubleshooting sleep issues， and more！


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Reviews

Silke De Feyter ，

Als complete expert in de slaaphulpboekensector moet ik zeggen dat deze toch nog extra interessante inzichten gaf。 Ook heel herkenbaar en geruststellend uitgelegd hoe slaap bij kinderen kan variëren aangevuld met veel getuigenissen。

Hannah ，

I was going to give this 4 stars because like the newborn version， I loved this book， but didn’t agree with everything in it but after reading some of the RIDICULOUS reviews from other people I am going to happily give her 5 stars！ If you really read her words， you’ll find a kind， understanding， and patient author trying to give parents many different options and paths。 She happily suggests you only do what works for you！ Any success we’ve had getting Felicien to sleep better and more in the las I was going to give this 4 stars because like the newborn version， I loved this book， but didn’t agree with everything in it but after reading some of the RIDICULOUS reviews from other people I am going to happily give her 5 stars！ If you really read her words， you’ll find a kind， understanding， and patient author trying to give parents many different options and paths。 She happily suggests you only do what works for you！ Any success we’ve had getting Felicien to sleep better and more in the last 3 months is because of the sound advice found in these books。 。。。more

India ，

DNF。 It was interesting/helpful to read about the experiences of another parent， but we decided to go in our own direction in the end rather than employ the suggested strategies。 Will keep this book in case we need if again in the future。

Courtney ，

I'm a firm believer that each baby and parent are different and that is a GOOD thing！ But full disclosure， this book doesn't do it for me。 I'm not convinced of the CIO solution or the No-Cry solution and that's okay。 Maybe I totally missed it， but this book （or "solution"） just doesn't appear to be more than a list of soothing replacements/diversions in an effort to minimize crying。 Can these tools be used well？ Sure。 Have I already used a few myself？ Sure。 But I'm not convinced it is a long-ter I'm a firm believer that each baby and parent are different and that is a GOOD thing！ But full disclosure， this book doesn't do it for me。 I'm not convinced of the CIO solution or the No-Cry solution and that's okay。 Maybe I totally missed it， but this book （or "solution"） just doesn't appear to be more than a list of soothing replacements/diversions in an effort to minimize crying。 Can these tools be used well？ Sure。 Have I already used a few myself？ Sure。 But I'm not convinced it is a long-term solution that will do well to equip baby to self-soothe on their own in the future （or the parent's for that matter）。 。。。more

Lauren Hightower ，

I honestly think these women might not actually be helping their babies sleep but instead the 10-week period allows for the baby to develop better sleep patterns due to neurological development。 Babies sleep better as they get older。。。 In 10-weeks you should naturally see a baby sleep better without any changes in the environment。。。

Debbie ，

The No Cry Sleep Solution is a great resource for parents looking for a variety of suggestions to help their little one sleep through the night。 I greatly appreciated that this book gave suggestions for a variety of babies and situations including breast-fed vs。 bottle-fed， crib sleeper vs。 cosleeper， pacifier user vs。 non-pacifier user， and newborns vs。 babies older than four months—rather than dictating which setup you need to use for the sleep training to work （which is unrealistic for most f The No Cry Sleep Solution is a great resource for parents looking for a variety of suggestions to help their little one sleep through the night。 I greatly appreciated that this book gave suggestions for a variety of babies and situations including breast-fed vs。 bottle-fed， crib sleeper vs。 cosleeper， pacifier user vs。 non-pacifier user， and newborns vs。 babies older than four months—rather than dictating which setup you need to use for the sleep training to work （which is unrealistic for most families）。 （I will say it leaned heavily towards helping cosleeping parents—which is completely fine， it just might be a frustrating read if those sections don’t apply to you）。That being said， I can’t speak to how successful this method is yet。 My baby sleeps in 3-4 hour chunks now （as opposed to 2 hour chunks like he used to do）， but I’m not entirely sure if that’s just because he’s getting better at sleeping now that he’s older than 6 weeks， or because the methods in this book work， since I haven’t been applying them thoroughly yet。 We’ll see how it goes。I will say some of the “dramatic” sleep improvements have more to do with the parents resolving their own bad habits than the sleep solutions actually working。 For example， the author noted her baby would “wake” 12 times a night to nurse， but that’s just because she assumed every stirring was a desire to nurse。。。her baby probably would have happily fallen back asleep by himself。 。。。more

Melody Thio ，

I don’t know why this book got so many bad reviews。 I think the author really cares for her children and genuinely wants to help other parents to get their sleep back。 The more I read about the cry it out method， the more I want to stay away from it。 I love that this book addresses the nurse to sleep association， since it’s exactly what I’m dealing with right now。 I’ve read the solution in some forum before， which didn’t work for me。 But apparently there was more to it， which I read in full deta I don’t know why this book got so many bad reviews。 I think the author really cares for her children and genuinely wants to help other parents to get their sleep back。 The more I read about the cry it out method， the more I want to stay away from it。 I love that this book addresses the nurse to sleep association， since it’s exactly what I’m dealing with right now。 I’ve read the solution in some forum before， which didn’t work for me。 But apparently there was more to it， which I read in full detail in this book。 I especially love that she includes her own time schedule minute by minute， which really gives me a guideline of what I can expect。 She also mentions that it won’t be an immediate success， which puts my heart at rest。I’m excited to try out these methods and pray to dear God that it will help my baby to sleep better！ :） 。。。more

Helen ，

There is some amazing tips for newborns to toddlers whether a parent lets there baby cry to sleep at times or not at all。 I had lots of success with my newborn and my toddler also benefitted from what was taught in this book。

Florin Grigoriu ，

clear， practical advice on how to deal with the dread of lack of sleep。The book is filled with lot of personal stories with humor an emotion， finding myself smiling about the cute adventures of little persons and parents

Elyse ，

Baby sleep is really complicated， and this was just overly simplistic。 Ms。 Pantley's sleep 'solutions' seem like they would work for some babies， but they had no results for us， after sticking with it for the prescribed amount of time and then some。 I wanted to like this book， but instead I am very frustrated and disappointed。 Baby sleep is really complicated， and this was just overly simplistic。 Ms。 Pantley's sleep 'solutions' seem like they would work for some babies， but they had no results for us， after sticking with it for the prescribed amount of time and then some。 I wanted to like this book， but instead I am very frustrated and disappointed。 。。。more

Jarek ，

This was the first book about baby sleep I read， so I got some base info about how babies sleep and how much they sleep from it。 Then there's some possible solutions suggested， and in between there is some fluff to make it a book rather than a blog post （OK OK in 2002 not that many people were reading blog posts）。 There's also some instructions on how to make your sleep-learning process methodical， basically boiling down to: decide on an action， do it for a while， take notes， evaluate how the ac This was the first book about baby sleep I read， so I got some base info about how babies sleep and how much they sleep from it。 Then there's some possible solutions suggested， and in between there is some fluff to make it a book rather than a blog post （OK OK in 2002 not that many people were reading blog posts）。 There's also some instructions on how to make your sleep-learning process methodical， basically boiling down to: decide on an action， do it for a while， take notes， evaluate how the action worked， repeat - possibly useful for people too tired to remember learning about the scientific method。The book is very much in the spirit of "attachment parenting"， which I didn't know was a distinction， but which appears to basically be a term for middle-to-upper-middle-class mothers spending a lot of time and effort on their babies。 Like a lot。 You might be able to think of some cases where this is not desired or possible。 The author herself has four children。Our kid so far ended up being a pretty good sleeper with little effort， so the book didn't come in that handy - luckily， I guess。 。。。more

Salwa ，

Worked for me。The most important part of the book was initial data gathering about your babies current sleep patterns。 You may have a vague idea in your head but writing it down gives you a better and detail picture with trends。 From there on you can easily figure out your own sleep plan and implement it。Before it often took me 1- 1。5 hrs to put my baby to sleep。 But today it took me 15 minutes and I spent the remaining 45 minutes to finish reading the last chapters of the book。 I didn't like th Worked for me。The most important part of the book was initial data gathering about your babies current sleep patterns。 You may have a vague idea in your head but writing it down gives you a better and detail picture with trends。 From there on you can easily figure out your own sleep plan and implement it。Before it often took me 1- 1。5 hrs to put my baby to sleep。 But today it took me 15 minutes and I spent the remaining 45 minutes to finish reading the last chapters of the book。 I didn't like the writing style。 It's repetitive， and the attempted friendly note felt fake。 And I didn't like the judgemental paragraph about parenting style where she mentions another baseball mom who practices non-attachment parenting。 That felt unnecessary， even though I do agree with her point of view。 I would not include such a personal judgmental anecdote to a large audience like that。 。。。more

Maricel Johns ，

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Sarah ，

What a gift it is to have simple yet actionable ways to help my child sleep better。 Elizabeth Pantley's warmth comes through so clearly， it's like having a loving friend support that which my intuition knows is right -- and helping me understand it more easily。 Recommending this book to all new parents and parents-to-be。 What a gift it is to have simple yet actionable ways to help my child sleep better。 Elizabeth Pantley's warmth comes through so clearly， it's like having a loving friend support that which my intuition knows is right -- and helping me understand it more easily。 Recommending this book to all new parents and parents-to-be。 。。。more

Amy C ，

The No-Cry Sleep Solution （both versions！） is in our family library。 We have three VERY different kids and all three are very different sleepers。 With our first， this book was a life-saver。 There comes a point when every parent is obsessed with sleep and letting my kids cry-it-out just didn't feel right。I am a social worker and my husband is a child psychologist， so we are fairly selective about our reference books。 This is one I kept around because Elizabeth Pantley has such a child-focused app The No-Cry Sleep Solution （both versions！） is in our family library。 We have three VERY different kids and all three are very different sleepers。 With our first， this book was a life-saver。 There comes a point when every parent is obsessed with sleep and letting my kids cry-it-out just didn't feel right。I am a social worker and my husband is a child psychologist， so we are fairly selective about our reference books。 This is one I kept around because Elizabeth Pantley has such a child-focused approach。 I tend to align my parenting most with attachment parenting， and I have always been skeptical about methods that go against my instinct。 What I most appreciated is that Ms Pantley's writing is very clear and straight-forward （because when you're sleep deprived that is exactly what you need！）。。。。and she comes across as very reassuring。 At the end of the day， what your baby wants and needs is you - and I appreciated an expert that supports that。 。。。more

Kristen Stevens ，

I love this book。 I used the first edition for 4 of my kids and got the new edition for my 6th baby。 It is so helpful for all situations and different kids personalities。 With my 6th baby I was beyond my breaking point getting up every hour to soothe her。 She would make herself sick by crying so long。 I pulled out my trusted book， now like a dear friend。 By carefully following the guidance of this book it didn’t take my baby long to learn how to sleep soundly through the night。 Elizabeth Pantley I love this book。 I used the first edition for 4 of my kids and got the new edition for my 6th baby。 It is so helpful for all situations and different kids personalities。 With my 6th baby I was beyond my breaking point getting up every hour to soothe her。 She would make herself sick by crying so long。 I pulled out my trusted book， now like a dear friend。 By carefully following the guidance of this book it didn’t take my baby long to learn how to sleep soundly through the night。 Elizabeth Pantley is also personally involved and happy to answer questions and help how she can。 For your sanity， and a good nights rest， I highly recommend this book。 。。。more

Rachael Ann ，

This was such a helpful book after just becoming a mother and when I was starting to have issues with my daughter and her sleep schedule。 It made me feel like I was a normal person and made me feel like what I was going through was completely normal。 Elizabeth also offers great suggestions and advice for helping to get kiddo back to a schedule。 Thank you so much and I definitely recommend it！

Kari ，

As a parent of 4 children， I have read a lot of baby books。 The No-Cry Sleep Solution is one of the few that really spoke to me， as an attachment-style parent。 The idea of letting a helpless tiny baby cry out her fear of abandonment never sat well with me。 As my babies turned into toddlers， I bought the follow up book too。 All 4 of our kids were naturally night-hawks， staying up late and sleeping until 10am or later。 It was refreshing to read about understanding their biological rhythms and not As a parent of 4 children， I have read a lot of baby books。 The No-Cry Sleep Solution is one of the few that really spoke to me， as an attachment-style parent。 The idea of letting a helpless tiny baby cry out her fear of abandonment never sat well with me。 As my babies turned into toddlers， I bought the follow up book too。 All 4 of our kids were naturally night-hawks， staying up late and sleeping until 10am or later。 It was refreshing to read about understanding their biological rhythms and not be made to feel I was a bad parent for not having them asleep by 6pm。 It was a schedule that worked well for us。 （Now they're teens， and still staying up late！） 。。。more

Ani Darbinyan ，

This is NOT a sleep training book， this is a book educating loving parents about knowledgeable approach and correct expectations about babies。 If you encounter on the internet phrases like "a 6 month old should sleep 12 hours a night"， then most probably that's a sleep trainer's blog。 Sleep trainers involve tears and never care for your baby's psychological future， they care about their money。 Beware sleep trainers！Biologically 5 straight hours of sleep is considered "sleeping through the night" This is NOT a sleep training book， this is a book educating loving parents about knowledgeable approach and correct expectations about babies。 If you encounter on the internet phrases like "a 6 month old should sleep 12 hours a night"， then most probably that's a sleep trainer's blog。 Sleep trainers involve tears and never care for your baby's psychological future， they care about their money。 Beware sleep trainers！Biologically 5 straight hours of sleep is considered "sleeping through the night" for small babies。 This and much more information in the book sets correct expectations towards our babies， who are small and who need our help with falling asleep。I am surprised at some negative reviews， who claim that the author doesn't have enough practice to be boldly claiming her approach， whereas she's been helping thousands of mums to achieve a peaceful harmony for them and their babies。 I think that amount is quite enough to claim the no-cry approach being successful。The other negative atmosphere around this book is regarding the time needed to achieve success。 Ferberizing takes only a week or maximum 2 to achieve a full night's uninterrupted sleep， whereas the no-cry sleep solution requires several weeks or even months to achieve it。 Well！ I have to say that anyone being thrown forcefully into a prison cell will cry for a week and then stop。 Not because they "got independent， grew， and learnt how to self-soothe"， but simply because they gave up。 The same happens with babies when you make them cry - they give up and they stop calling for comfort， even though subconsciously they still need it。 Pantley's gentle approach is absolutely the opposite - whatever change we do （removing night breastfeeding， prolonging naptime， reducing night wakings， and so on）， we do it with ZERO tears and with respect towards our child。This book overall is in some sense "Baby Sleep Bible"， because it teaches endless love and patience towards babies （very similar in its philosophy to Dr。 Sear's The Baby Book）。 This approach is for truly loving and big-hearted parents who put their BABIES as first priority， rather than themselves。 。。。more

Kären Marroquin ，

A great book for when I needed to rethink our sleeping situation。 I appreciated how the author gives many different ideas to think about implementing instead of a one-size fits all approach。

Abby Wheelwright ，

If you're into attachment parenting， you will probably appreciate this book。 If you're into schedules and being in control， you probably won't。 Yes， this method was harder than letting my baby cry it out， （which I did with my first two。） No， it's not harder than bed sharing with a kicking toddler。 Fact: I felt terrible for letting my babies cry for no reason， and loved sleeping with them， so co-sleeping was the easiest thing for me。 No crying， no getting up and walking to comfort baby， no waking If you're into attachment parenting， you will probably appreciate this book。 If you're into schedules and being in control， you probably won't。 Yes， this method was harder than letting my baby cry it out， （which I did with my first two。） No， it's not harder than bed sharing with a kicking toddler。 Fact: I felt terrible for letting my babies cry for no reason， and loved sleeping with them， so co-sleeping was the easiest thing for me。 No crying， no getting up and walking to comfort baby， no waking from a deep sleep by screaming infant， sleep again as soon as baby's nursing。 Besides， it was very sweet。 However， there came a time where I wanted her out of my bed， but I didn't want screaming， trauma， or a power struggle。 This book provided that transition， with very little crying or fuss。Full disclosure: I did find the ideas and reminders helpful。 I didn't do everything she said （ like a sleep log。 I want less work， not more。 I did successfully transition my toddler to sleeping in her own bed alone， and waking fewer times per night。） I didn't find the advice useless， vindictive， or guilt-inducing， like some others have said。 I also didn't find it to be all or nothing。 The author specifically talks about doing what works for you， following your heart， and being flexible and gentle with yourself and baby。 It's not the end all。 It's just some stuff you can try， and lots of people find it helpful。 There is no end all。 Parenting is hard。 I did personally find this book useful for making certain things easier。 。。。more

Nicolas S ，

Things I've picked up from this book:The 10 steps to success are:1。 Ensure safety for your baby2。 Learn about sleep and what to expect from your baby （probably my favourite step as I realised that my baby actually sleeps better than the average baby， while we were thinking that his sleeping was a complete torture） 3。 Keep a sleeping log （not the best step IMO） 4。 Chose strategies for your sleeping plan5。 Devise a sleeping plan6。 Follow plan for 10 days7-10 basically assess/revise your plan and a Things I've picked up from this book:The 10 steps to success are:1。 Ensure safety for your baby2。 Learn about sleep and what to expect from your baby （probably my favourite step as I realised that my baby actually sleeps better than the average baby， while we were thinking that his sleeping was a complete torture） 3。 Keep a sleeping log （not the best step IMO） 4。 Chose strategies for your sleeping plan5。 Devise a sleeping plan6。 Follow plan for 10 days7-10 basically assess/revise your plan and adjustI liked many of the the suggestions， even though many of them might be common sense。 Create a sleeping routine and stick to itThink of associations between things we do and sleep。。 Create a positive feeling towards the bed， don't let the baby sleep while feeding， test different activities to signal bed time and chose your favourite， use white noise devices to cover noise in the house， don't hold your baby after she's slept， help your baby tell the difference between daytime naps and night sleep， introduce words， sounds or music to signal bedtime， all these might take a few weeks before you see results so be persistent and patient。Ask your partner or other people to help or just listen to your frustrations。 。。。more

Sarah Mason ，

Quality Content。 Intuitive approach with patience at the centre Easy read and simple steps。 Whilst I have not yet started to implement her suggestions alot of what she has diiscribed I am doing already with my newborn， at 11 weeks baby it's a great time to read and ake sure I am prepared and setting up for successful sleep in the future。 Quality Content。 Intuitive approach with patience at the centre Easy read and simple steps。 Whilst I have not yet started to implement her suggestions alot of what she has diiscribed I am doing already with my newborn， at 11 weeks baby it's a great time to read and ake sure I am prepared and setting up for successful sleep in the future。 。。。more

Gabriella Georgieva ，

I think that this book has a potential， but it’s definitely not for everyone。 If you are breastfeeding， having a calm approach and are flexible， I say give it a try。 For me， I found that 90% of the “solutions” in the book I already do。 Some of them by instinct， some of them because Taking Cara babies （not her course， but her social media platform， mainly Instagram） and the other 10% I don’t want to use or don’t like。 I think that if you have Instagram， you can follow Taking Cara babies there and I think that this book has a potential， but it’s definitely not for everyone。 If you are breastfeeding， having a calm approach and are flexible， I say give it a try。 For me， I found that 90% of the “solutions” in the book I already do。 Some of them by instinct， some of them because Taking Cara babies （not her course， but her social media platform， mainly Instagram） and the other 10% I don’t want to use or don’t like。 I think that if you have Instagram， you can follow Taking Cara babies there and find the same advice， but for free and （sometimes） more compleet。 Overall I think it’s an ok book。 I don’t think it’s revolutionary or extraordinary， but it has some tips that may help。 。。。more

Sabrina ，

The No-Cry Sleep Solution book is about creating a plan and sticking to it。 A 4 and 6 month old should sleep between 10-11 hours at night。 A 6 month old should also have 2 naps in the day and sleep for about 3-4 hours。 A four month old should nap 2-3 times a day for about 4-5 hours。 A lot of the things suggested in the book is what I currently do however some other tips were to give the baby a sleep toy， associate words to sleep or associate music or sound to sleep。 Some steps to take is to sett The No-Cry Sleep Solution book is about creating a plan and sticking to it。 A 4 and 6 month old should sleep between 10-11 hours at night。 A 6 month old should also have 2 naps in the day and sleep for about 3-4 hours。 A four month old should nap 2-3 times a day for about 4-5 hours。 A lot of the things suggested in the book is what I currently do however some other tips were to give the baby a sleep toy， associate words to sleep or associate music or sound to sleep。 Some steps to take is to settle the baby and fall asleep， comfort without pickups， soothing pats， verbally soothing baby， comfort from outside the doorway。 Making a "sleep" book for the baby and "All about （name）" book。 Have a big feed before sleep。 Then you do a nap and sleep log every 10 days。 You then analyze what has worked and what hasn't worked。 。。。more

Kay-Leigh ，

As a mom of two difficult babies， this still feels like the most natural and kind way to teach a little one to sleep。 Not easy by any means！ It's a little fluffy as a book but useful。 As a mom of two difficult babies， this still feels like the most natural and kind way to teach a little one to sleep。 Not easy by any means！ It's a little fluffy as a book but useful。 。。。more

Caterina van Herpt ，

Similar review to the newborn version of this book。 I found some stuff very repetitive but I did learn some tidbits about baby sleep and some tools available to help with baby’s sleep。

Tricia ，

Nothing earth shattering， but some good tips。 Liked the calm soothing writing style。 Alternative ideas to “cry it out，” but outdated advice on some safe （or unsafe） sleeping habits。 Take it for what you can。

Suzette ，

A great book that I wish I would've read read before my baby was born。 This book has lots of great and practical advice for encouraging baby sleep， but much of the advice I already knew and after reading the book I didn't find any new information that I already didn't know。 Not a bad book by any means， but perhaps a good primer for someone who does not understand baby sleep。 A great book that I wish I would've read read before my baby was born。 This book has lots of great and practical advice for encouraging baby sleep， but much of the advice I already knew and after reading the book I didn't find any new information that I already didn't know。 Not a bad book by any means， but perhaps a good primer for someone who does not understand baby sleep。 。。。more

Alicia ，

I say 4 stars bc she is very gentle and yet still gives solutions if you basically are at your wit's end。 And she doesn't just say she understands， she shares and writes in such a way that you know she cares。 I didn't love the organization and some of the suggestions， but if I had to recommend anyone a sleep book for babies this would be it！ I say 4 stars bc she is very gentle and yet still gives solutions if you basically are at your wit's end。 And she doesn't just say she understands， she shares and writes in such a way that you know she cares。 I didn't love the organization and some of the suggestions， but if I had to recommend anyone a sleep book for babies this would be it！ 。。。more

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